Saturday, May 11, 2013

The Power of Love Part 1

The Power of Love

I'm sorry I haven't made a YouTube video in such a long time. My heart hasn't been in it lately but I will return.
That's not why I'm writing today. I want to tell of you of the sweetest love story I know. One that makes me cry while typing this out.

In October a few years back I wrote about my beautiful friend Candy and her survival story of Breast Cancer. 
Sadly she passed away last week. 
She won and fought for so long. Her breast cancer showed it's ugly face when she was in her 30's. After her mastectomy, she had breast reconstruction surgery. The plastic surgeon tunneled fat from her tummy and formed a new breast from that fat. 
All was wonderful.
She was alive and felt whole again after the dreadful loss of a breast. (All of us as women know how painful a loss  that would be)
28 years later, about a year ago,  Candy began experiencing horrible pain in her stomach. The cancer had a trail to go to and it was now in her stomach lining. She was in for the fight of her life. She went thru chemo and more chemo. So much chemo that her fingertips turned black and were numb. She lost her hair and it grew back, more chemo and gone again.
Finally, her doctors told her there was nothing more they could do. They sent her home with a morphine pump and a bag to go to the bathroom in....

Candy had been married for years to the man of her heart. Her soulmate Dan. She loved him with all of her being. He loved his booze and other illegal things.  They divorced but Candy never stopped  her love and affection for Dan. She did everything to mend the relationship but it was not to be. Dan loved her too but had other loves.

The doctors told hospice no more food or water for Candy. She would lie in bed wracked in pain and ask about her one love, Dan.
For 5 weeks Candy hung on. There was no medical reason for her to still be here. Still be on Earth, still alive, still loving Dan.
Every day she asked for him. 

The doctors and nurses were amazed she was still clinging to life.

Everyone would say, "What is she waiting for?"

She was waiting for Dan!

Last week Candy took her last breath. Her beautiful heart stopped beating. 
When we knew she was gone, we were all so sad but so relieved she was no longer suffering. No longer in pain....
She was gone.
We got the call later that night that Dan had died. 
6 hours after Candy took her last breath at home. Dan died in a hospital emergency room 2 miles away from liver failure. 
Candy was waiting on Dan.
The most ironic part of all.....
They both died on their wedding anniversary!
Their daughter Dani lost her mother and her father all in one night.
6 hours apart.

I truly believe in my heart that Candy waited on Dan. Her heart knew he would need her where they were going. I believe and all of her family and friends believe that her love for him waited to hold his hand and take him to eternity together.
I write this sobbing. 
A more pure love story could not be made up like this. I think love can be as strong as the Heaven's.



Next time I write I want to tell you how my darling husband helped me from his grave. It was like he was guiding me. Helping me. I'm too emotional right now to tell it all but it's a powerful love story too.
Until next time... 
Cherish those you love like there's no tomorrow. 

I love you all. 



45 comments:

  1. this is so ((there are no words)) some things can only be felt... my heart is broken- happy hopeful its a lot to take in- thank you for sharing this story...

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  2. Wow...very emotional story....thanks for sharing your hurt, joy and life...Lovely Lana

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  3. Such a beautiful story. So glad you got to spend some time with your sweet friend. Thank you for sharing this story! Happy Mother's Day Lana! xxxooo

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  4. Such a beautiful story. So glad you got to spend some time with your sweet friend. Thank you for sharing this story! Happy Mother's Day Lana! xxxooo

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  5. What a wonderful friend you are Lana. Happy Mother's Day to you....hugs & kisses...patti ����

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  6. Love is so powerful Lana. Whether it's with people we are with or were with, love will see us through. It remains in the core of our hearts and no one can take it away from us.

    Love
    Susan

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  7. Love is powerful, beautiful, and filled with Blessings. Although sad it was beautiful the way you vividly describe your friends experience. I pray she is resting in Paradise with her Dan and that they both find peace. Also I know this must have been difficult for you, but I am eager to hear of your love story part 2. Until then Happy Mother's Day.

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  8. Oh, dear Lana! How beautiful this is!!! Thank you for sharing!!! I have added it to my blog (one of the few computer features I can still access, as I'm having a partial computer crash - no streaming videos, social media, et al, until I can get it fixed!) ... TY again <3

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    1. P.S. Do you know the syndicated radio show host, Delilah? She has also written books, etc. DELILAH WOULD LOVE THIS STORY!!!!!
      &
      P.P.S. Happy Mommy's Day <3

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  9. Dear Lana - Just before I found this beautiful story, I had gone to send you a Mother's Day wish via messaging you on YouTube. I didn't find you, so I looked here. You've gone through so much, and I just want you to know your well-being is important to me... and to so many others. I send you love and healing thoughts. Please just know that I care :) Mary Sue (booboo53isme)

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  10. So beautiful may they both rest in eternal peace xxxxxx

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  11. sadly, i lost my husband, unexpectedly, 5 years ago this August. everyday, i wish, hope, wait, pray for my heart to heal. what keeps me going is believing that it will. thanks, Lana, for touching my heart.

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  12. Beautiful tribute to your precious friend! I lost my mother to cancer two years ago, so it's hard reading stories like this. I am so glad to see you doing better and getting on with your own life. You look wonderful.

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  13. Oh my, what an emotional and powerful life story. I lost both my parents to cancer in 2005 and 2008. I pray the world has a cure someday.

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  14. Oh my, what an emotional and powerful life story. I lost both my parents to cancer in 2005 and 2008. I pray the world has a cure someday.

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  15. Wow...that was the first word that came to my mind...yes, cherish those you love like there's no tomorrow...

    Can't wait to read about your love story Lana...take care and God Bless!

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  16. Lana, I came back to this blog and I have known bits and pieces of your life here and then. You are so fabulous I'll never forget finding you on youtube years ago! You have a heart of gold and a sense of humor like no other. I'm glad you are getting through life's struggles and I wish you all the best and send you all the love I can to someone over the internet. Your posts (including this one) have brought me to tears. You can find the beauty in everything and thats a gift few have, so I thank you for writing this as its a reminder to me to do the same. Much love to you xx Patrick

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  17. The circle of life sucks, Lana. The best we can do is to give/get as much love and joy we can while we are here. You've done a great job for your loved ones!

    Your friend,
    Mary

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  18. God that just choked me up. Life is so precious and each day I Thank God for all my blessings and the love I feel from my Hubby and Son. Life is so short. Thank you for sharing.

    Farrah Mayleigh

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  19. What a deeply touching love story. Now they will always be together. Thank you for sharing.

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  20. Thank you again for sharing your life with us.

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  21. Hey Lady, I've been thinking of you & missing you. What a poignant story you've shared with us. Deeply moving. I'm hoping to see your lovely face & wonderful 'outlook' back on YT, hopefully soon sweetie. Blessings, Elaine

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  22. im so sorry lana
    please make more handbag and shopping videos

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  23. Hi, Lana. You have not upload videos on youtube these few months so I checked this vlogs and found this touching and incredible story.
    My mother passed away last January after long unconscious but painful state.(almost a year) I still wonder what were those painful days for ?

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  24. What a touching story. I am so sorry you lost your friend Lana. You have such a sweet way with words. Are you still considering writing a book? Biggest hugs. xoxo

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  25. Thank you for telling us this wonderful story of inspiration. Hope all is well with you, recently found your vlogs and was happy to see another Hoosier! I am now in the Chicago area but love Indiana, most of my family is there.
    Your videos are so helpful and fun! I love the stories from you just wanted you to know you are appreciated and missed. Hope your weekend was relaxing.
    Note: your Mile High video and the story of the guy and gal in the "bumpy air" made my day :) And thanks for telling the world the true meaning of being a flight attendant, SAFETY. You rock! Take care!

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  26. Oh Lana, I'm so sorry. I was afraid by your absence on YT that your friend had passed away. I can't imagine the pain your going through. I don't even want to know the feeling of losing a friend. She suffered so much pain in her life. I pray that in Heaven Candy & Dan will be happy for all eternity. Poor Dani to lose both parents within 6 hours. Much love & hugs for you. God bless you. I'll say some prayers for you & your friends.

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  27. I love your stories about your life - so inspirational. Are you going to finish your chapters? What happened?

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  28. Well, with respect, I think you're quite the selfish woman. You don't "feel" like doing anymore YouTube videos? You're a whiner. I know for a fact a lot of women - and men - on the West coast of Florida were supporting you and watching your continuing life challenges. Yes, you've been through a great deal. You had a great career, husband, friends and now you're a survivor. But like the people who went to escape their lives in the 40's and watched stars like Fred Estaire and Ginger Rogers, to a lot of people online, you represented hope and courage. You chose to start documenting your life - you really can't just stop and say you don't "feel" like doing it anymore. Do you realize how many people you are letting down with that poor me attitude? Not for you, for people who depend on people with courage get off your duff out of your expensive car and starting posting updates weekly again - now. Do it for the women who have lost everything in the tornadoes and need inspiration, do it for the women who have lost their husband and need to how another women copes and resumes her life, do it for the survivors.

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  29. A true love story Lana. Can't wait to hear from you again. From those of us who have lost loved ones we truly understand your emotions.






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  30. Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you.

    Miss you.

    Susan

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  31. Lana we miss you sooooo much!

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  32. You've been through a lot and you've given your time to people when you could. Take care of yourself and come back when you feel like it. I'm sure you will. I think you've just been through a whirl wind of emotions and those that want to make negative comments are just selfish. xoxo Don't forget to ask God for guidance, I often forget and then wonder why I'm so stressed etc. (:

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  33. You've been through a lot and you've given your time to people when you could. Take care of yourself and come back when you feel like it. I'm sure you will. I think you've just been through a whirl wind of emotions and those that want to make negative comments are just selfish. xoxo Don't forget to ask God for guidance, I often forget and then wonder why I'm so stressed etc. (:

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  34. I'm thinking about you, dear Lana. Hope you're doing okay. You are missed. xoxoxo mary sue (booboo53isme)

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  35. Wow.. Speechless.. Such a beautiful story. It made me tear up. Love can be so powerful. Thanks for sharing.

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  36. You wear your heart on your sleeve,so true,so real,you are so adorable,you truly are a fun friend for me through your site...Thanks for making my day or night when i tune in..Love ya, Laura

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  37. They were made for each other!. It's very ironic and such an emotional story..

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  38. so sorry for your loss Lana, such a sad story.

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